Oh. And selfish.
"Hun, can we go for a midnight swim?"
"No" because it's cold
"Babe, would you make me a coffee?"
"No" because I'm busy and you're just sitting there
"Jen, want to watch a movie with me?"
"No" because I was planning on sitting on eBay all evening and a bang-bang shoot 'em up isn't high on my to do list.