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  1. CHAOS and Sabbath

    Monday, 27 September 2010

    The new book for the Bloom Book club has been announced, and I can't wait to read it.



    Angie and Jess said it their video release (that sounds so cool) that author Wayne Muller gives practical ways of creating a Sabbath. I hope so. I've found a lot of these book tend to be aimed at mothers that already have life pretty well together, and I, well... I so don't.

    Our pastor is doing a series at church at the moment called "Servants & Stewards".

    On Sunday, he said something like (because i didn't have a pen... or a notebook for that matter, I'll paraphrase)

    "Quite often, we don't see growth in one area,
    because we don't have another area in order"

    Cue conscience prick.

    I struggle very, very much with keeping a tidy home. I wish it to be a warm, restful, calm haven for my husband and family, but long ingrained requirements and definitions of clean and tidy make the task seem overwhelming.

    My name is Jenny, and I suffer from CHAOS.

    And a symptom of said CHAOS, is I don't feel I deserve a Sabbath.

    I struggle to justify doing anything when so much is needed to be done in my home. I felt guilty the entire time I was sewing the other week. I have stacks of patterns I need to make up, but won't let myself, because I feel I don't deserve it. I don't go on outings with the children, because the time would be better spent tidying up the brothel I call a kitchen.

    I don't have quiet time, I don't work out, I don't shower (hows that for honesty) because I feel that I'm being selfish to take time for me when that is time I should be using to clean.

    Shitty thing about it, is that time I'm "saving" I don't actually do anything with, because I'm so intimidated by the sheer mountain of stuff that needs to be done. I hate only half doing things, so when I clean, it ALL must be done. And if I can't get it all done in my allotted time, then I won't even begin.

    It's a vicious cycle.

    If we're going to be brutally honest here, there are to major sins I see outworking in this area of my life.

    Pride and Laziness

    The way the pride comes into it is almost backwards. I want to have a clean house so it makes me look good. If I can't, then why bother?

    Control issues, much?

    Laziness... apathy... meh.

    Meh.

    That's my attitude most days. It's a constant fight in my head. I wake up wanting desperately to get into it and just get it done already. And then the kids will fight as they are waking up.

    Meh.

    I walk out to try and figure out breakfast, only to be confronted with every dish in the sink, dirty.

    Meh.

    The clothes I managed to wash last night when I did the uniforms have been dumped out of the dryer all over the floor.

    Meh.

    But it's not just meh. That's how I cope. Inside, I'm angry and guilty and feeling like a failure on so many levels it's not funny.

    I'm thinking it's just going to take a concerted effort to overcome this battle I have in my mind... and my heart. I'm going to have to start making small changes, start new habits. Change my mindset.

    Begin.

    Do you have any tips that work for you
    to keep your house under controll?





    Come over to Bloom's new home and join us in pulling this book to bits, then sticking it all back together so it impacts our lives in practical ways.

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  2. 6 comments:

    1. From Tracie said...

      A lot of m friends follow the Fly Lady method of house cleaning. I think the premise is that you spend a certain amount of time working on specific areas (according to her schedule?) That might be worth checking out. It would get you on the road to clean and organized, but take away the pressure to get everything caught up at once and perfect. (and if that idea doesn't apply, let it fly!)

    2. Prudy said...

      I would say get the kids involved. Have Troy and the twins do dishes. Or at least the things they can't break. Start having them help with laundry or get Troy involved now in making dinner. Course I'm not a mom and never have been so I may be just giving you horrible advice.

    3. Jen said...

      No, not horrible :) Troy can do the laundry. They can wash dishes. The lack of discipline in this is mine. I don't make it something they have to do. This will change at the new house, when we have room to move. We are already planning a chore list.

      At the moment, sometimes (ok, most) it would just be easier and less stressful for me to do it, rather than stand over them for a hour keeping them on task. I'm not kidding... attention span of a rabbit.

    4. Jen said...

      Oh, and I've tried fly lady :) I take bits and pieces from her, but not a whole bunch. (I hate wearing shoes!)

    5. Stephanie said...

      Oh, girl, I know what you're saying--and I only have 2 kids! One thing that usually gets me focused is doing the dishes. A messy kitchen at my house leads to a mega-mess in every room. If the sink is empty, then the counters should be too and the rest kinda follows from there.

    6. emma said...

      Oh I so relate to all of this :)
      I have found it helpful to just pick one thing, one room, one task, and do that. Its sounds silly-simple, but I really try to forget everything else on my list (which is often just mental, and over-the-top anyway), and just do the thing in front of me. Small baby steps doing this (and I also only have 2 kids!) have helped me alot.
      Honestly, you're a hero for not complaining and blaming it all on space, which I'm sure is a difficult issue too. Here's to the move!

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