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  1. Good Noise vs Bad Noise

    Friday, 30 July 2010

    We're moving.

    Not any time greatly soon, we've been renting my mothers house while she's been in England these last two years, and she gets home in 2 months.

    One could say both Adam and I like to be prepared.

    Either that or we know how spectacularly we can procrastinate until we only have 4 days to pack up a house of 6 kids.

    Needless to say, we've begun collecting boxes and as of last night, started putting things away.

    We are loving it.

    While we are incredibly grateful that we had mums place to move into, it has been the most trying two years as a family to date. Mum's house is.... small, to put it nicely.... and it has been really hard squeezing six children into a house built for three people.

    Did I mention there's no back yard?

    Anyway, we are so excited to move to a bigger home. One where we can have a bedroom. Sleeping on the lounge room floor was fun for about a week. One where I can send the kids outside to run off some steam.

    One where their fighting isn't magnified by the closeness of the walls.

    The hardest thing these last two years has been the noise. The relentless noise of cooped up kids with cabin fever. I am so looking forward to having my sanity back. There is nothing worse than constant bickering, screaming and wailing.

    As a singer and generally all-round musical person, I am sensitive to noise. Being an INFP personality only compounds this. I was talking to a dear prayer warrior friend at church the other week and I told her that if it was a happy noise, I wouldn't mind the volume so much. But it's not happy noise. It's bad noise.

    It's not just the kids either. While I'm feeling like every sound wave is ramming itself into the side of my head and I'm sick and tired of their constant at-each-other-ness and zero capabilities of working anything out on their own without shrieking at each other or physically fighting, I must be honest and admit that I add my own voice to the fray.

    Cutting words.

    Dismissive words.

    Screaming.

    Swearing.

    Often simultaneously.

    Children learn what they live.

    I know I am incredibly undisciplined in this area. And though the Bible tells us that taming the tongue is impossible (James 3:8), I can tame my heart, or at least allow Jesus to do it for me. And in doing so, it will check my temper, and allow me to respond, rather than react, and at least bring the decibels down a little bit.

    Adam and I really sat down a few months ago and tried to work out where our home life all went to pot in this regard.

    The answer was so simple.

    We moved from a house with a backyard bigger than the block this house is on now.

    Our children need to run.

    This was proven to such an extent I was nearly blinded by the shattering light bulb above my head, when we took the kids out to a friends property for a birthday party.

    They did. not. stop. running.

    We arrived there at 3:30. From the minute they were out of the car, they were gone. I didn't see them again. They didn't even come to eat.

    This is a big deal.

    I called them at seven to tell them it was time to go, thinking I'd need at least a half hour to get them gathered and in the car.

    Five minutes later, they were all packed up in the car, not one whine or tear to be seen.

    Huh!

    Fancy that.

    We also realised, Adam and I, that as two introverted parents, with predominately extroverted kids, we do not work well in close environments. We are all up in each others business too much.

    There is no where to go and be alone.

    The kids share rooms. We don't have one.

    Sometimes, we need somewhere to go and have a time out. Sometimes, when Adam comes home, if he calls me, I'll sneak out the front, and when he arrives, we'll just sit in the car for 10 minutes before we brave the pit.

    We are standing on Words given that God will provide us with a house. With space, so we can grow.

    And that is a good noise.


  2. SHINER

    Wednesday, 2 June 2010

    Eli came a-croppa two nights ago, taking a spectacular stage dive off the couch and landing face first onto a small chest of drawers. Of course, like the good, concered parent I am, I made sure I'd cuddled him and made sure his eye still worked etc etc...

    And then tried to get photos, because it had already come up bruised, the foretaste of a wikid black eye.

    Adam thought it sick, but I know you all know better.

    Anyway, we here round these parts know how hard it is to get Eli to sit still for anything. Especially photos.

    So today, two days after he did it, I finally decided to hold him down.

    This is the best of two seperate attempts.

    Please notice the strategy of Food as Bribery.

    Please do not notice the self art.

    Then, I had a stroke of genius.

    I strapped him into his car seat.

    It still took about eleventy three photos to get this one.




    I'd say this is the first of many...

    But it isn't.

    He's already had at least 3.


  3. Eli...

    Monday, 24 May 2010


    Never sits still.


    Ever.
    He has attitude.


    He is determined.

    He's silly.
    Into everything.
    But sometimes, he'll stop, give you attention
    (I get a kiss every morning)
    And then, sometimes, as an added bonus, he'll give me...
    ...this
    to keep forever.


  4. My Kid is Awesome.

    Thursday, 20 May 2010

    Adam started Operation: Skinny-Up on Monday, and yesterday was his first work out session with my brother, who is a trained PT for the Navy.


    He's a bit buff.



    Adam called me on the way home and said three words


    "He's a bastard."



    Anyway, he got home and went promptly to the shower, sitting down in it with the stream of water flowing over him.

    Eli, thinking that Daddy was having a bath, figured he wasn't doing it right, after seeing me have a few, and bought him a book.



    How is that for awesomesauce?


  5. Be near me, Lord Jesus

    Monday, 15 December 2008

    The Christmas School holidays have begun.

    Otherwise known as The Ultimate Test of Sanity.

    One has bled profusely. Already.

    It's going to be a long six weeks.

    Have you ever wondered if God looks at us and thinks to himself that we're perpetually like kids on an extended holiday?

    For example, today, the very. first. day, my children have been
    *Argumentative
    *Bored
    *Fidgety
    *Testing
    *Loud
    *Unhelpful
    *Disobedient

    They've hit each other, lied, yelled, broken things and thrown tantrums.

    Isn't it great to know that our Father God doesn't get snappy like I do, or shrill, fed up, short tempered or longing for the day when "they'll be gone all day".

    My kids are a handful. I will be relying on Him a lot.

  6. I got some photos of the kids. That's the good news.

    Eli is now walking around the furniture. That's.... ok news.

    Amy did a faceplant off the top bunk, split her bottom lip from end to end and all the way through and knocked out her top front left tooth.

    That's the BAD news.

    Did you know that the human head bleeds profusely when broken?

    Also, I've been mad busy trying to squeeze all our possessions into this tiny house without it looking like we live in a thrift store, Adam is studying like a crazed person to get his diplomas (yes, plural) finished in two weeks, so we agreed I'd be a 'single parent' for a fortnight or so, and to top it all off, I went away for the weekend with the ladies from church for a retreat.

    Oh! But I finished Adam's next hundred off. The link is to the side. Also, because I don't have the time to post pictures here on Blogger at the moment, here are the ones I posted on Xanga

    *sigh* I promise, really, to put more of an effort into here. And thank you all, for your comments so far... and please accept my apologies for being rude and not responding to the last few.